Being Loved, Being Betrayed

They say love is blind. I disagree. Infatuation is blind, where you are captivated or obsessed by someone or something. Love is all observing, thinking, seeing, liking, accepting and respecting. Here I am destroying the concept of “Love at first sight” too. To love someone takes way too long. It’s not simple that you got mashed on someone within no time and start building a relationship. Searching for any shortcuts in this regard and hurrying will cause you to make mistakes. Also proceeding too quickly means that you don’t have the whip hand on your lubricious thoughts and lustful nature, sorry to say.

Once you be in the limelight of your beloved ones, it feels like a million. Meanwhile fear awaits you to fade away your joys and build a sempiternal sense of insecurity in your head. The intensity of fear and anxiety you experience define your priorities and things what you are afraid to lose. You have to suffer as long as you get the better of all this stuff on your own or with the help of the person whom you love. Usually you have to overcome this fear and insecurity on your own because the chances of getting help from beloved ones are slim at its best. I must say you will be lucky enough in the second case because such beloveds are pretty hard to come by these days.
Being driven from pillar to post, finally for the thing which you greatly feared came up against you. You got the worst feelings of being compared, ignored and then rejected. You feel your life on the apex of confounding after your high expectations being ruined catastrophically. All these circumstances are created by the person whom you love the most the person who has got murder in his/her heart. It is the fact that everyone out there is in the search of something or someone better. All the time in spite of being in deep waters, you spent all your efforts to bring things back to the way they were before, but to no effect. On the other end they just look for a lame excuse to split, and once they got one, they will use it as their fortiori.

After not getting your voice back, here comes an anger and disquiet. You become a part of the terrible and painful world of not knowing what the hell is going on in your head. An eternal pain builds slowly and gradually creeps up on you. Some of our pains are self-chosen. Once you are addicted to the pain, it builds an anger and anger? It keeps your blood flowing to an endless purpose. You never let things go then. My advice here is “Please don’t ever let your grief become anger, it will never go away”.

Don’t treat people as an option. It’s not fair to make them think that you are their family and then leave their life in ruins.  If you want them go and leave then don’t make this about better and best options. At least have the decency to admit that you are doing this because you are self-loving and all you care is about one and only yourself. Yes, you are selfish.

Author: Aamir Zahid